Ah, well... I started to say, and then stopped. So that was where he was going; I'd heard it before. Richard had told me that I'd not been standing in my mother's shoes in 1942, when I was born; he'd said I couldn't, or shouldn't, judge her. It was my not forgiving her that irked him-it was my intolerance of her intolerance that bugged him. - John Irving Not forgiving someone is like not pulling a thorn out of your foot just because you weren't the one to put it there. - Mercedes Lackey Not forgiving someone hurts you worse than it hurts him...even if he doesn't deserve to be forgiven...Not forgiving someone is like not pulling a thorn out of your foot just because you weren't the one who put it there. - Mercedes Lackey In fact, not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die. - Anne Lamott Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die. - Anne Lamott

Not forgiving someone is like not pulling a thorn out of your foot just because you weren't the one to put it there. - Mercedes Lackey Not forgiving someone hurts you worse than it hurts him...even if he doesn't deserve to be forgiven...Not forgiving someone is like not pulling a thorn out of your foot just because you weren't the one who put it there. - Mercedes Lackey

At that point, Noriko finally breaks down and begins to cry sobbing into her hands as the floodgates open - this young woman who has suffered in silence for so long, this good woman who refuse to believe she's good, for only the good doubt their own goodness, which is what makes them good in the first place. The bad know they are good, but the good know nothing. They spend their lives forgiving others, but they can't forgive themselves. - Paul Auster It's toughest to forgive ourselves. So it's probably best to start with other people. It's almost like peeling an onion. Layer by layer, forgiving others, you really do get to the point where you can forgive yourself. - Patty Duke

I want to say somewhere: I've tried to be forgiving. And yet. There were times in my life, whole years, when anger got the better of me. Ugliness turned me inside out. There was a curtain of satisfaction in bitterness. I courted it. It was standing outside, and I invited it in. I scowled at the world. And the world scowled back. We were locked in a stare of mutual disgust. - Nicole Krauss To be social is to be forgiving. - Robert Frost If one by one we counted people out For the least sin, it wouldn't take us long To get so we had no one left to live with. For to be social is to be forgiving. - Robert Frost He gave her an indulgent look. "I'll forgive these rash words for now." She sputtered, " Forgive? Let's talk about who should be forgiving who." "Whom," he corrected. "Shut up! I'm in the right here. Remember all those things you did to me? - Kresley Cole understanding the true nature of instinctive decision making require...